Rejecting the hetero

I have been 'chatting up' some girls. It really is a befuddling, exasperating activity. So hard to read the signals on the spot, at the same time as putting on an ad hoc performance. I mustn't be too forward, mustn't be not forward enough. Don't way to be a nuisance to someone not interested, don't want to miss out on someone who is. And at the same time as all this I'm assessing whether the other person is actually right for me or not.

I've had my successes, but I strongly maintain that if you don't ride through all this to regular romantic success it needn't be because you're a 'love-shy' or because your inner gender frustrates it.

Why do I turn to autogynephilia when I know that if I tried hard enough I would get myself a female lover sooner or later?

Perhaps it is a rejection of:

1) The slimy, tortuous nature of flirtation and seduction.

2) The male role: making the moves, being the forceful one, etc.

3) The tensions and responsibilities of committed relationships.

4) The approval of (in fact, the need to uphold)  heterosexuality and masculinity by the conservative, the belligerently macho and the gross.

Rather than autogynephiliacs being frustrated heteros, perhaps we have an impressive ability to find in ourselves what heteros need from others (with a lot of projection).

With regard to sexual fantasy, rather than being a voyeur or the male who acts upon the sexy person, surely it is a richer experience to actually be the sexy person?

Maybe one day crossdreamers will open up schools to teach others how to become autogynephiliac.